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Then she never answers your calls.
Explanation : She was obviously attracted to you but as we discussed ear-
lier, attraction is an emotion, and emotions dissipate over time. So, a few
days later she doesn t feel much of anything for you. If this happens regu-
larly it means you are relying too much on High Attraction Game to seduce
girls. This can be effective in the club, but often leads to flakes because it s
one note and doesn t motivate them to reinitiate contact because there is
nothing special about you on a deeper level. Also, the hotter the girl is, the
more likely this will happen. She meets a guy just about every time she goes
out and is juggling so many options at once that you really have to create
something different and memorable to cut through.
How to solve this : Don t just rely on just Attraction. It is very tempting
to stay in Attraction for a long time because it is fun and validating and we
get showered with IOIs. Don t fall for this. Instead start creating Massive
Rapport with girls. Use the rapport building techniques discussed earlier and
spend a lot of time connecting with her on a deeper level. Experiment with
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trying to create a real soul mate connection with every girl you game and not
just being a crazy player. It may feel weird at first, but learning to do this
will pay big dividends once you ve mastered it.
Remember: Rapport takes place in the logical brain. That means once you
create it, it stays forever. You can rely on it much more than attraction to
get you results.
Once you have enough attraction and you successfully connect with her, she
will like you forever. Fun is forgettable. A deep emotional connection is not.
If she just feels attraction and fun towards a stranger, you are just some
guy she was horny for that night. That might be enough for us, but it s not
enough for her. Serious rapport prevents flakes.
2) You set up a date with a girl, you talk, you text each other, everything is
perfect. There is sexual tension in air. You are sure it s on. Then, 45 min-
utes before the date something comes up and she can t come. The excuses
may vary, but this type of flake, just before the meeting, is very common.
Explanation: She likes you a lot and she wants you. While she s getting
ready, she starts thinking about you and it starts turning her on and getting
her horny. She realizes that she may not be able to control herself and may
end up having sex with a stranger tonight.
She starts to release adrenaline and too much adrenalin leads to fear and
fear leads to a flake.
Thinking about sex Horniness Adrenaline Fear Flake
The flake at the end is not an emotion itself but rather a logical decision she
makes based on her emotions. The flake is a result of this chain of emo-
tions.
How to solve this: Prevent this chain of emotions from happening over the
phone. If this happens to you often, it means you are either too sexual or
too needy before sex actually happens. It means you are projecting over the
phone or text that you want to have sex with her too much. Even she wants
it, and she likes it, if you overdo it you risk bringing up resistance. It s best
not to get sexual with her until you are physically together on the date. Not
before! This way her instincts kick in due to her attraction to your presence
and touch which reduces the resistance and you are there to comfort her if
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there is any. Needy guys will have this problem a lot because they go into a
feeding frenzy as soon as they think they are going to get some action. This
is not the behavior of guys who have lots of options with women. Play it cool
and sex will happen. Get desperate and you will blow it.
Also, for good measure, make sure that before sex actually happens you
deepen the rapport to insure that she feels special and that you aren t just
looking to get laid.
Of course, every rule in this game can be broken. Many good Players can
actually talk about sex on the phone before meeting the girl and still get laid,
but to play it perfectly smooth follow the advice above. It will save you from
dealing with the frustration of flakes.
Should I Kiss Her?
eing relaxed is one of the most important elements in pickup& and in life.
BWhen you are relaxed, you are also naturally confident and spontane-
ous.
When your body is relaxed, your mind will follow. And when your mind is
relaxed, there are no limitations. You don t over think -- you just do. When
your logical brain is working too much, you don t listen to the things that
come from your unconscious. This is extremely important to learn to do. If
you listen your unconscious mind and your instincts, you will get laid like
crazy. That is what most Naturals do. They don t think, they act from their
unconscious.
How many times you asked yourself while talking with a girl, Should I kiss
her? or, How long should I wait before I kiss her?
Here s the rule guys: If she s giving you attraction signals and your body is
telling you it s time, GO FOR IT. Every time the window of opportunity ap-
pears, take it.
Let me explain what s happening in your body at that moment. The girl
starts thinking about sex or kissing or just gives you strong attraction sig-
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